29 5 / 2012

"If you’re unhappy at the amount of sexual opportunity in your life, don’t blame the women. Instead, make sure they have equal access to power, wealth, and status. Then watch what happens."

Christopher Ryan, co-author of Sex at Dawn

23 5 / 2012

"Love and lust are as different from each other as red wine and blue cheese, but because they can also complement one another splendidly, they get conflated with amazing, dumbfounding regularity."

Christopher Ryan, co-author of Sex at Dawn

23 5 / 2012

okaydominic:

Love locks at Seoul Tower. 

okaydominic:

Love locks at Seoul Tower. 

23 5 / 2012

Self-sublimating Obsessive Interdependence Syndrome (SOIS)

A disorder characterized by a group of symptoms that present themselves in the subject after coming in close contact with a person they perceive as emotionally stimulating and/or physically attractive. Symptoms include:

  • Almost continuous ruminating and obsessive thoughts focused on the well-being and perceived reciprocated favor of one other person.
  • Self-sacrificing ideation focused on one other person. This includes expressing a willingness to allow ones own death in order to preserve the life of another.
  • Dissociation from the self as a singular entity, signified by increased usage of the pronoun ‘We.’
  • Overwhelming sense of safety and security that causes the patient to have low reactivity to stressors.
  • Extreme and long lasting emotional distress in reaction to actual or threatened separation.

23 5 / 2012

aintabitchinmyzone:

Actually seen and been on both sides of a relationship? Its crazy. Its like in movies when the audience knows what one character doesn’t know. Its called dramatic irony. Relationships aren’t meant to be easy and all fun. They are meant so you have one person to go through all of your problems with. Its meant to be a struggle and in between those is when you get the happiness together, knowing that you made it through something. Seeing both sides of a relationship is scary. Cause you know what can fix it. Its almost like you just wanna make them puppets and fix it yourself. Being too comfortable is not always a good thing. When you get too comfortable you think its okay to always take and you start expecting things and thinking that’s its always gotta be in your favor, but its not. The other person needs love and attention too. Communication. Thats a Bitch. Its too hard to communicate when one person is stuck in one mindset and not trying to understand how the other feels. The other gives up cause why try when you get everything turned at you. I just wish people would let love over rule all. Not everybody gets that chance to have love, to feel love so when you get it, don’t take it for granted. Its too powerful to just let it slip away because of some stupid non communication or not being able to change your ways. Thats just my opinion, but what do I know? I’ve never been in a relationship.

16 5 / 2012

"I really hoped to keep this an open group, but as expected, the men are quickly outnumbering the women. For now, invites are only available to the ladies!"

(from the home page of the The Chicago Makeout Group on meetup)

16 5 / 2012

04 5 / 2012

"It’s often said that every song, every poem, every novel, every painting ever created is in some way “about” love. What this really means is that love is a central theme, an underlying preoccupation, in humanity’s greatest works."

http://www.brainpickings.org/index.php/2011/04/18/5-must-read-books-on-love/

02 5 / 2012

larhunter:

“Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence there is ugliness.
A mature person does not fall in love, he or she rises in love. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. Now they cannot manage and they cannot stand. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have the integrity to stand alone. A mature person has the integrity to stand alone. And when a mature person gives love, he or she gives without any strings attached to it.
When two mature persons are in love, one of the great paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone. They are together so much that they are almost one. Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. Only freedom and love.”

Osho (via nirvikalpa)

yes.

(via sammystokes)

:)

Guys, I love that page from Gaiman’s Sandman about how awful love is that’s resurfaced today as much as anybody. It’s well-written and, to the right person in the right time, true, as all stories can be. But I’d like to proffer the other side.

So good.