23 5 / 2012

Self-sublimating Obsessive Interdependence Syndrome (SOIS)

A disorder characterized by a group of symptoms that present themselves in the subject after coming in close contact with a person they perceive as emotionally stimulating and/or physically attractive. Symptoms include:

  • Almost continuous ruminating and obsessive thoughts focused on the well-being and perceived reciprocated favor of one other person.
  • Self-sacrificing ideation focused on one other person. This includes expressing a willingness to allow ones own death in order to preserve the life of another.
  • Dissociation from the self as a singular entity, signified by increased usage of the pronoun ‘We.’
  • Overwhelming sense of safety and security that causes the patient to have low reactivity to stressors.
  • Extreme and long lasting emotional distress in reaction to actual or threatened separation.

27 4 / 2012

by Diane Ackerman

NYTimes, March 24, 2012

"In the end, what we pay the most attention to defines us. How you choose to spend the irreplaceable hours of your life literally transforms you… All relationships change the brain — but most important are the intimate bonds that foster or fail us, altering the delicate circuits that shape memories, emotions and that ultimate souvenir, the self."

"Love is the best school, but the tuition is high and the homework can be painful… Whether they speak Armenian or Mandarin, people around the world use the same images of physical pain to describe a broken heart, which they perceive as crushing and crippling. It’s not just a metaphor for an emotional punch. Social pain can trigger the same sort of distress as a stomachache or a broken bone."

"During idylls of safety, when your brain knows you’re with someone you can trust, it needn’t waste precious resources coping with stressors or menace… The flip side is that, given how vulnerable one then is, love lessons — sweet or villainous — can make a deep impression."

(Source: The New York Times)

16 4 / 2012

"I think… if it is true that there are as many minds as there are heads, then there are as many kinds of love as there are hearts."

    Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina